Advertisements

Life Coaching | 5 Keys to Maintaining Your Personal Authenticity


As the rather recent saying goes: “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.”

Authenticity is the practice of being truly yourself. Isn’t it odd that this should be so hard to do? After all, you are yourself, no? Yet the word “authenticity” seems to point to a certain way of being yourself, a way of expressing in your words and actions what you honestly think and feel – a way of having your outside match your inside. What’s so hard about that? One word: fear. We fabricate an artificial outside because we’re ashamed of our (unworthy) inside, and are afraid of it being seen. These 5 Keys will not dissolve your fear, but will aid you in being more authentic in the face of it.

yoga3

  1. Pause and breathe. Let’s say you’re about to answer a question. Without making a show of it, pause and take a subtle extra breath before responding. Your brain will use the extra milliseconds to get in touch with what’s actually true for you rather than blurting out some kind of “looking good” answer.
  2. Speak louder. Being inauthentic is a form of lying. And it’s much harder to lie loudly than softly. We’re not talking about some noticeably out-of-character increase in volume – just a tad. Maybe one point on a scale of one to ten. You may be pleasantly shocked by the results of this powerful technique.
  3. Be willing to tolerate silence. Ever experience an “awkward silence?” We all have. Underneath the awkwardness is fear. Face the fear head on, internally vowing not to be the first one to break the silence. Also, in any situation where a response is expected of you, be willing to remain silent until you have found the correct response, the authentic one.
  4. Be committed to taking action. Don’t wait for fear to subside before taking any important action. Acknowledge that you’re afraid and forge ahead anyway, like a warrior. If, for example, it’s a scary phone call you need to make, notice that your fingers are capable of dialing the number no matter how fearful you may be.
  5. Watch yourself. Without making yourself wrong, notice your inauthenticities as they come up. You will almost certainly discover patterns and habits of which you were previously unaware. These discoveries will coalesce into insights and, in time, breakthroughs. Your intention to be authentic is one of the most powerful forces in your body.

yoga5

About Jim Starr

Jim Starr is an author, philosopher, certified Rolfer and avid student of the human condition. Currently residing in Colorado, he is also a computer programmer, hospice volunteer and amateur musician. A Rutgers graduate and true native of New Jersey, Starr plays plenty of handball and has won the Colorado state championship in his age division numerous times. He has lived the story of Jersey Yogi: The Unintentional Enlightenment of an Uptight Man, (www.JerseyYogi.com).

Advertisements

Beauty + Style | The Radiant Look Can Be Achieved!


Yes! The radiant look. One that we’re all so desperate to achieve, but one that just seems a far cry away for so many of us. To look radiant means your look fresh, you’re glowing, you’re happy, and it can even boil down to how your hair looks! But we all know that this look […]

Lifestyle | The Importance of Creating a Bucket List


The Importance of Creating a Bucket List Having a healthy balance in life is one of the best feelings you can have. Although downtime and relaxation are necessary sometimes, you also want to make sure that your life is meaningful and that you accomplish the goals you want to achieve. A bucket list is the […]

Lifestyle | Body-Positivity + Confidence Tips For the Growing Gal


If you’re not happy with the way you look and are not 100% confident in how you feel — you won’t be the first and you certainly won’t be the last. We live in a society where we’re judged on how we look; the clothes we wear, the make-up we put on and the size […]

100 In a Year Project Series | #2 Lay Down On the Grass + Stare At the Stars


I’d like to first begin this one by saying it was well thought out. Again, one of those moments when I jumped at something because it excited my spirit and seemed totally worth it. One thing about this 100 In a Year Series is taking on the idea of “adventure” in so, so many ways. […]

Parenting + Motherhood | 5 Easy Nesting Nursery DIYs


When you find out you’re expecting a baby, besting is a natural part of the experience. Suddenly you want to clear out, redecorate and get cosy ready for the new arrival. A big part of that is creating your child’s nursery. It’s the first step towards getting ready for your new family and creating a […]

Love + Relationships | Get ahead In 2018 With These Dating Tips!


The dating landscape has changed tremendously. An old practice that we value has been changed by new dating practices. It does not mean that we just shove those old dating tips taught to us by our parents. It can still be incorporated to develop your rock-star dating list for the year 2018. This is a […]

%d bloggers like this: