Love + Relationships | Breaking Up, Is It Really Possible To Stay Friends?

There is nothing nice about breakups. Whether you’ve been together for years and have kids to think about or have been dating for just a few months, breaking up is never going to be easy. Telling someone who you once cared so much about that you no longer have those feelings can be soul-destroying, even if they feel the same way.

A lot of couples who break up for amicable reasons, such as falling out of love with one another, choose to stay friends. Or, at least, try to. The problem is that when you’re breaking up, staying friends with your ex isn’t exactly a straightforward task. However, by taking the right steps, it is possible. To stay friends with your ex, here’s what you need to do:

Be civil to each other

The most important thing, if you want to stay friends with your ex, is to be civil to each other. When you’ve just broken up and have all these pent up feelings of anger and hurt, that can be somewhat hard to do. However, try to think before you speak, to ensure that the two of you remain on good terms. Once something comes out of your mouth, you can’t take it back. So, no matter how upset or angry you feel, try to think before saying something that you may come to regret.

Don’t take your breakup to court

If you are married and are divorce or have been living together for years, breaking up can be incredibly complicated. There’s the question of who gets the house, the dog, the furniture, and even the kids – if you have any, that is. Because of this, a lot of marital breakups and civil law marriage breakdowns, end up in court. However, there are other options, such as mediation and couple’s therapy, for instance.

Take a break from each other

The chances are, if you’ve just broken up, you’re not ready to be around each other just yet. So take a break from each other for a set amount of time, so that you can both get on your feet and let the wounds heal. Anything from a month to six months can be a good amount of time – it just depends on how you feel. Once you are both happy to do so, meet up as friends and catch up. It may take time to be good friends, but if you work at it, you can get there.

Establish boundaries

Going from being a couple to friends isn’t going to be easy – there will be a lot of boundaries to navigate. So it’s a good idea to sit down and work out what boundaries each of you wants to set from the get-go. For instance, things like no turning up at each other’s houses unannounced and no getting too close to each other. You both need to be comfortable enough to tell each other when a boundary has been crossed and be able to deal with it like adults.

The long and the short of it is that it is possible to stay friends. However, in order to do so, it can take some time, and a little help from the professionals.

charli sig


Parenting + Motherhood | 5 Easy Nesting Nursery DIYs

When you find out you’re expecting a baby, besting is a natural part of the experience. Suddenly you want to clear out, redecorate and get cosy ready for the new arrival. A big part of that is creating your child’s nursery. It’s the first step towards getting ready for your new family and creating a […]

Lifestyle | The Importance of Creating a Bucket List

The Importance of Creating a Bucket List Having a healthy balance in life is one of the best feelings you can have. Although downtime and relaxation are necessary sometimes, you also want to make sure that your life is meaningful and that you accomplish the goals you want to achieve. A bucket list is the […]

Love + Relationships | Get ahead In 2018 With These Dating Tips!

The dating landscape has changed tremendously. An old practice that we value has been changed by new dating practices. It does not mean that we just shove those old dating tips taught to us by our parents. It can still be incorporated to develop your rock-star dating list for the year 2018. This is a […]

%d bloggers like this: