Relationships will always change because people change. A partnership develops and evolves over time. Your bond might strengthen, and you might even decide to spend the rest of your lives together. However, even the strongest of relationships might come unraveled when conversations turn to starting a family. It is, perhaps, the biggest decision you might ever make. So how can you tell if you are really ready to bring a new life into the world?
Having a partner is not essential to raising a happy, healthy child. Millions of people do just fine on their own. Still, even with a second parent, looking after a baby, a child, or even a teen is really hard work! If you are in a relationship, it’s best you’re on the same page when it comes to starting a family. That doesn’t mean you have the same ideas when it comes to parenting though.
Different ideas should be welcomed. After all, there are lots of different ways to get a good job done. You might come from different educational backgrounds, different neighborhoods, and even different faiths. You could bring the best bits of all you each have to offer. Still, it’s a good idea to have lengthy discussions about any of the issues that might come up should you choose to co-parent.
Do you need to be mature and grown up to have a baby? Of course, some common sense certainly goes a long way. We all have different ideas about what maturity means. Some people feel exactly the same way they did when they were a teen. That doesn’t mean you’re not emotionally ready to raise a child. Everyone changes and one thing that will change you forever is becoming a parent!
Having a child is financially draining. Of course, when you become a parent, your priorities change. You won’t want to be out on the town every night, so that spend might be redirected anyway. Many parents prefer not to work once they become parents. Others choose to take on part time work. It’s fair to say that your income might take a hit. This is why more and more parents are waiting until they have a little more financial stability before they start to plan their family.
There is no need to give up your career, either permanently or temporarily. However, parenting changes you. It changes your priorities, and your career might not be the most important thing to you anymore. It’s really important to keep your career options open when you start a family because you won’t know how you feel about it until you’re a family. Getting back to where you were can be quite hard to do, especially if you have several years away. It’s not impossible, though, so maintain your network of colleagues and professional relationships.
Your body also needs to be ready to have a baby. This can be the most difficult challenge to overcome. It’s not always easy to become pregnant when you want to. Ovulation doesn’t happen every single month, and there is only a narrow window for success if it does. There are plenty of things you need to do to improve your chances of a healthy pregnancy and baby. There are also many things you can try to help the process along.
Fertility treatments are available to help any couple struggling to conceive. There are several different types so you might be able to find one to help you. Problems with conception can be indicated by problems with your monthly cycle. Other long-term health conditions like hypothyroidism can be problematic too. Most people have to pay for any fertility treatments they might need. This can include tests and support before and during the treatment. Have a look at these frequently asked questions about the cost of fertility treatments if you are considering this option. It might be more affordable than you think.
Of course, it is natural to doubt your readiness to parent, even when you are pregnant! In fact, many parents feel that same way for quite some time after their baby has arrived. Parenting is unlike anything you might have experienced before, and it is perfectly normal to feel worried. Pregnancy does peculiar things to your body and your hormones, so many feelings are exaggerated during this time. You’re also likely to suffer from sleep problems as your baby starts to grow inside you. Getting comfortable is really tricky at times! Changes to your diet, and even your lifestyle and routine can help.
Preparing for a baby is never easy. Perhaps you’ll not feel completely prepared even when your baby is here. Are you ready to start a family?